Life Lessons · mental health · peace

Just let it go, let it gooo…

Yep. Just like the song says. I love Disney movies but Frozen in particular is 100% on point. Lately I’ve noticed that so many people around me are trying so hard to have control on the things around them to have some sense of normalcy. I see it causing them a lot of anxiety and stress. So much so that I worry for their physical and mental well being.

I told a friend tonight that I learned long ago that not every person is good or going to be what you expect them to be. We can either accept them for who they are and be okay with what we get from them or we can choose not to. Which often means cutting off relationships. The latter is not always feasible so that leaves us with accepting people for who they are.

That’s not to say that people can’t change. Or that we shouldn’t try to express our feelings with them. But ultimately an individual does not change unless they have great self awareness. We cannot change them. They must change for themselves.

In order to find inner peace though we must be willing to let go of the expectations we have for others. The only thing we can control are the expectations we have for ourselves.

If you find yourself feeling anxious, pause for a moment and ask yourself if this is something you can control or if your are trying to control a situation or others. If your answer is that you are trying to control a situation or others then you need to take a deep breath and say to yourself, “I let go of what I can’t control.” And move on.

I know it’s difficult for many of us to not feel anxious right now. But now more than ever it is imperative to take care of our mental well being. That often entails vital self reflection and making some changes within ourselves. Fortunately that IS something we have control over.

Life Lessons · mental health · peace

Treasure your friendships…

We are told this often and there are many quotes about friendship.

Now more than ever it is so important to heed that advice. It may be a simple text here or there. But with the pandemic going on and so many people’s mental health declining we must stay in touch with those that are special to us.

I am fortunate to have stayed in touch with 4 gorgeous friends from grade school for 25 years now. And no matter what we’ve been through I know without a doubt that if I needed them they would be there for me.

I also have nurse friends, several from nursing school who I adore and several from the jobs I’ve had. That’s a different breed of friendship just by the sheer fact of our job. (Yes our stories are insane!)

And I have friends within our community. These are the friends that accepted my family under their wings and welcomed us to the community. Our kids go to school together and we trick or treat together.

(This year will be the first year we don’t 😢)

I have 3 very distinct circles and each is from a different aspect of my life but they have ALL meshed so well into an external (aside from my husband) support system.

But I will tell you… IT TAKES WORK TO MAINTAIN FRIENDSHIPS.

Find your support system. But put the effort in every day. Tell people you love them. This is so important for all of our mental well being during a time of prolonged isolation.

“Find your tribe and love them hard.”

This is what 25 years of friendship looks like! I adore them!!